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16 comments:
sorry, I messed up.
sorry, was just asking advise dealing with a 15 yr old...who knows it all and loves me one day and hates me the next.
Pat, I had two girls. Both hated me during those years. Why? because they pushed ever single boundary I gave them and when I was tough, they pushed harder. They were very difficult then.
When they give you shit when you lay down the law, about anything like having to come home earlier then their friends or why they can't drink beer or why can't she date that guy down the street that is 19 years old? (the list is endless) Stick to your guns. Don't back down.
They need to see you be sane even when inside you are boiling, crying or dyeing. Hold up a strong loving but firm front. They don't need to know that their words hurt you. If they are rude or verbally abusive (cursing at you etc.) Tell them it is unacceptable and tell them you wont talk to them until they act civilized. Tough to do when they taunt you but necessary. Yes they will say that they hate you, but deep down they want the boundaries believe it or not. Sometimes putting off the part about being their friend comes later when they are older. Right now you are the MOM!
Good luck and God Bless, I feel your pain!
Then when the are out of the house, take a hot bath with a glass of wine and thank God you have a break.
Thanks Juls. He can be the sweetest sweetheart but their are times,
if I didn't show my strength, he could beat my ass. Fortunately, he hasn't Even tried that yet..no matter how hard he thinks he has it...we still tell eachother we love eachother, later. I wonder if he really means it at times.
Juls...you helped alot girl..I'm not alone!
I have been through it. I know how you feel. Very hard part of being a mom. He loves you, he wants to manipulate you. He will not want to admit it but it is true.
Pat did you delete my comment?????
no DRL...If I did It was a mistake..sorry dear
anyway, with the other two quotes, I want to quote Bill Cosby. "I will kill you, and I can make another that looks just like you".
As for the boy being stronger than you. I tell the boys that want to date my girls that I can hit a moving target.
sooo sorry DRL..I'm so dumb at this thing some times.
LOL DRL!! I remember mom and dads Cosby albums. I wish my 15 yr old son, (adopted) half black/white could understand how beautiful he is and make such a difference.
oh, im slow. I see what you mean by posting twice. hey anyone have any purple coolaid?
LOL DRL. How did you possibly remember the grape koolaid????
I must have written something about mixing it with my Dads Old Grandad whiskey. you were just a babe and I'm pretty sure my accomplices were Wendy, Alice, Doug and maybe Dave. oooohhh, just the thought of it......gross! Ha! now I bitch about my 15 yr old. Maybe i'm getting my Just Deserts.
I have two daughters & my wife, we have two cats, one female and one fixed. The walls of my home drip estrogen. I think sometimes girls are easier because boys are always getting into some kind of trouble but then when girls get into trouble it's usually BIG trouble. Patsy most of us here share or have the shared experience of the common struggles of parenthood. You have to stand your ground. The last thing society needs is more people with a sense of entitlement and no sense of boundaries.
I don't really know how to tell you to accomplish this but I know that it's hard. I do hear from friends that they eventually come back to you.
I'm convinced that the aging process begins in earnest when your kids reach those teen years.
You're a survivor, you'll be fine.
Thanks Doug...so true.
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